I think we’ve all been here. We’ve had setbacks in our lives that have knocked us off our game (see previous blog post for example). We are at a loss for what to do next and where to go, especially if circumstances happened unexpectedly.
Trust me, I’ve been there (or am there, or will be there in the near future. Life happens.)
For the purposes of this blog, I want to write with genuine feeling and from a place of compassion and empathy. I’ve had moments in my life that have left me completely speechless. I’ve been through traumatic events, have gone through terrible breakups, and have lost extremely important people in my life. And believe me when I say that when one bad thing happens, everything else around you seems to possess that negative energy.
I’m here to tell you that you can isolate that negative energy, and cast it out! It’s not a permanent feeling (unless you make it).
I’m not an expert here, but I’m just a girl who, like you, has suffered and sometimes still struggles with establishing a routine when you just do NOT feel motivated to do a single thing.
With compassionate advice and encouragement from close friends and family, the most important thing to do is…
Take one single step & start somewhere.
Sharing from personal experience: I am madly, head over heels, in love with yoga and meditation. But of course, when I am knocked off my game, the LAST THING I want to do is place myself on my mat. It doesn’t mean I no longer love practicing, or have given up, but I’m just lacking the motivation inside to bring my mind and body to my practice. During a huge set-back in my life, I almost went an ENTIRE YEAR without practicing.
What did I notice? I felt AWFUL!
I was irritable, miserable, anxious, stressed and of course, depressed and lethargic. All things that could be reduced (or eliminated) had I actually convinced myself to hop onto my mat and even do a sun salutation or two (or just lay in savasana for a while). But when you’re in a “negativity cloud”, you don’t see those things. You just see “nah, I’m not in the mood to do that” and you neglect it.
Once I had convinced myself to do a yoga practice…
I felt a sense of accomplishment. I was able to motivate myself to do a single task I had been neglecting and by completing it, I felt so much love for myself and for my practice. It encouraged me to try another task (making a delicious breakfast with coffee) and listen to a positive, uplifting podcast.
Self-love is not selfish.
The one thing we can be blind to when we have had a recent setback is how important self-care/self-love is.
For me, practicing yoga (daily, if possible) is a form of self-care. I am able to spend quality time with myself in that moment to channel my negative thoughts out, and breathe in compassionate thoughts and positive vibes.
When we put too much pressure on ourselves to do a million things, we get overwhelmed, especially if we are struggling to get motivated to do a SINGLE task.
So like I mentioned before, and what has been told to me by multiple (incredibly compassionate and understanding) people in my life, is start small but start somewhere.
When we choose to begin, we are creating a flow of energy in a positive direction. If we sit and fester in our current ways, we are bathing in our own negativity, which like I mentioned, makes every single aspect of our lives feel THAT negative.
By focusing on one activity to bring back into our lives, from there we can establish a reasonable and positive routine to help us become more motivated again.
Like I said, one single action can create a flow of motivating energy in a positive direction. So whatever activity you’ve been neglecting, whatever single task you’ve been dreading of doing, channel that negative energy you have associated with it – isolate it and push it aside – (just) DO THE TASK – and embrace the positive energy you’ll receive by doing it.
Then CAST OUT THE NEGATIVITY!
Appreciate and nourish the new flow of energy you’ve created by completing the task and then you can begin to establish a routine that works for you, and helps motivate you to do another task, followed by another!
If you took the time to read this blog post, my heart is full. I hope this post could help if you’re feeling down and out, and reaching for some encouragement. We’ve all been there, time and time again, but sometimes just hearing some positive words and personal experiences can help motivate in itself. What one task you’ve been putting off that could get your momentum going again? Let’s continue the discussion (perhaps with a nice cup of coffee, heh.)
And reader, I want to thank you for reading up to this point in the post. Writing is an outlet I am passionate about, but hardly allow myself to do. I hope you enjoyed reading this post, and look forward to reading future blog posts on this site. I will be posting content every Saturday — so mark it on your calendar or even better, subscribe to my blog below so you get alerted when the next post goes live. Also, look out for future blog/vlog videos, exclusive content and just more positive energy to float your way.
Chat again next Saturday!