Today, I am 30.
And in true drama queen fashion, I’ll say “I am OLD.”
But it feels even more dramatic to say that I’m astrologically maturing.
A rite of passage welcoming you into your more mature role here on Earth.astrostyle.com
Having your Saturn Return is like having your cosmic puberty. It’s when the planet Saturn returns to the same constellation location it was in during the time you were born. This rotation takes anywhere between 27 to 30 years, so your Saturn Return typically symbolizes your transition into a more “mature” astrological era of your life cycle.
If you’re interested in learning more about Saturn Return, check out the article over on liveaboutdotcom.
I like to believe that time and age are relative, and personally I’ve had to unlearn some of the harmful and toxic “age-milestone expectations” I created and grew up with in my mind. On birthdays in the past, especially during my early to later twenties, I would ask questions like “Where did I expect to be by this age?” “Do I have a house, car, kids, etc. by now?” all the time and I would then begin to compare myself to others of my age and how they are living. I’ve since learned that those around me do not reflect where I should be… but that I reflect exactly where I am!
Personal growth is not comparable to others, it’s evaluated and felt within yourself. So I learned many valuable NEW life lessons.
As Lord of Karma, Saturn brings you what you’ve earned through your disciplined pursuit of goals and experience.liveaboutdotcom
The amount of self work and attitude adjustment that was put in just this year alone makes me immensely proud to be entering my thirties today… bringing with me with a healthier and much more solidified positive mindset.
So with all that being said, I wanted to make this special blog post on my birthday to share with you some life lessons that I’ve learned and plan on carrying with me into my mature and glowing thirties.
Life Lessons I’ve Learned
First off, let me start by saying that you will NEVER stop learning life lessons. No many how old you get. But I feel as I become the golden age of 30, I should share my top three life lessons that took me (embarrassingly enough) a bit of time to learn.
You get what you give
These recent 365 days alone, from October 3 2019 until now, I have truly learned to appreciate the concept that you get back the energy you project into this world. Prior to my 29th birthday last year, I was feeling incredibly down and out and didn’t want to acknowledge another trip around the sun. I had a very pessimistic attitude and just wasn’t interested in having anything good around me (or I wasn’t capable to see the good that was around me).
This year, I’m surrounded by loved ones – friends, family and the like. I am incredibly grateful for everything that I have in my life and I appreciate the journey it took to get me to this point. It was a lot of self work and training, but having a more optimistic perspective and approach in life has truly changed absolutely every experience I’ve had thus far. The more positive and warm energy I put out (i.e., in social interactions, in complex conflicting situations, stressful circumstances, etc.), the more positive the outcome and the overall experience. So it really goes to show that the more negativity you project outwards into the world, the more negative experiences and energy you will attract and encounter.
I’ve always been attracted to the law of attraction (no pun intended) and really fascinated with the idea that what you put out is what you will receive. Based on recent experiences in my life, I can say that for myself, changing my mindset and attitude really opened doors and opportunities for me that I never thought were possible.
Also, just a cute positive energy story:
Recently I got myself a Nintendo Switch as a Happy (early) Birthday present. I originally wanted the special edition Animal Crossing one but was sure it was out of stock. I was having a bit of anxiety in the store and felt overwhelmed, but I channeled my attitude and kept my spirits up. The line was long at the cash, and you could tell others were very impatient. But we stood in line, giggling and excited just to get the new toy. When we went to the cash with a Neon Nintendo switch and the Animal Crossing game, she said she had to go get it out back so we had to wait for her to go get it. The lady behind us got upset, but we weren’t phased and said not to worry! She came back around the corner with two boxes, one was the Neon color I brought to the counter, the other was the special edition Animal Crossing version they just got out back. I was ecstatic!!! The one I wanted all along. I firmly believe it was our positive energy and karma that allowed that experience to happen and after that transaction, I hope I passed along to her some of that amazing energy that was created from just being patience and positive.
Happiness is where you are
This sort of ties into something I said earlier about “comparing” where you think you should be in life to where you are now, and evaluating your happiness based on those set expectations. I will admit that I suffer greatly from having extremely high expectations of myself (e.g., I should be married in my twenties, with a career – house – kids or I’m a loser) and would internalize my “failures” if I didn’t achieve them, therefore causing self-pity and loathing. But that’s the thing about life: you can’t set a time but you can set an intention.
What this means is: “Sure, you want a house someday? Okay. SOME DAY!” And don’t get me wrong, you can give yourself an age to (try) and achieve that intention by, but don’t give up on yourself if you don’t achieve it exactly when you planned to. We can control a lot of things about our own lives, but sometimes we cannot control circumstances and situations that happen to us. We can aim for a target goal, but also should be ready to adjust our course should it be necessary.
And if we become so focused on where happiness COULD be (e.g., if I had a house, I’d be happy then), we are completely missing where happiness IS… which is right in the present moment. When we fixate on our timeline “failures” and stumble up on our “life setbacks”, we lose sight of opportunities for personal happiness and growth in the present moment.
Here’s a quote that truly spoke to me about living in the present. I would frequently hear while this paraphrased while practicing guided yoga.
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.Lao Tzu
… and it took me about 30 years of existing on this planet to really feel it, acknowledge it and embody it.
Be Ready for Anything
This one might be the newest and most relevant life lesson on my list, for many reasons.
Be ready to change… to adapt to new, evolving opportunities and experiences. Be ready to accept failure and move on with the lessons that were learned from the experience. Be ready to embrace new experiences, new people, new challenges. Just be ready and confident in yourself and your ability to embrace and concur change.
As a person with trembling anxiety, “being ready” is my natural anxious habitat and change can be tough sometimes. But I’ve learned to appreciate it and not get overwhelmed by it, which became so important during the pandemic. You had to be ready to change your work environment, your daily routine, and for some your entire lifestyle. It’s not dramatic to say that everyone was experiencing a shared anxiety of some form collectively for months. And you definitely needed to find ways to adapt to the changing rules and new public etiquettes.
Everyone was feeling the need to be ready to some extent for any situation, so I didn’t feel alone in my anxiety anymore. Everyone was a bit anxious. And that shared feeling of anxiety and empathy towards others’ experiences allowed me appreciate and learn ways of managing my anxiety in a more healthy manner. So the biggest, and most important of them all… I feel just being ready to do anything is the best mantra to embrace and repeat. Channel your inner power and believe in all your capabilities. You are ready to do anything this universe has in store!
If you took the time to read this blog post, my heart is full. (Especially today of all days. Thank you for celebrating my birthday with me and I hope you enjoyed the post.) What are some life lessons you really resonate with and how did you learn them? Let’s continue the discussion below (perhaps with a nice cup of coffee, heh.)
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